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Welcome to my review of How To Think Positively: The 90 Day Happiness Journal by Detlef Beeker
One aspect of reading self-help books, whether they are in the realm of general living, or even in business and productivity, is that the subject of Gratitude and achieving happiness, as well as positive thinking keeps on coming up, in various forms, no matter who the Author is. Because of that alone, I think it warrants a deeper dive into these concepts, which is why I have chosen to place more and more books about that subject are onto my TBR list.
One of these books was the newly released The 90 Day Happiness Journal.
Now, I probably have way too many books that also contain journal prompts, but the therapeutic properties of keeping a journal are not to be denied. The 90 Day Happiness Journal explains some of the reasons, specifically as it relates to gratitude.
Here are some of the points the Author made before getting to the actual journal part of the book
Note: The journal starts at about ¼ of a way into the book
- Keeping a gratitude journal can turn into a mechanical activity, that one does automatically without much feeling. I agree with the author to a certain degree on this, because anything repeated over a longer period of time, can become somewhat automatic and monotone, but that does not bring me to a conclusion to outright dismiss standard Gratitude Journals, with the same vigor as he has. Keep in mind, that any tool, is only as valuable as the energy that you put into it, and that goes for feeling grateful just as much as any other positive living aspect. If someone likens the writing in their gratitude journal as being just another part of a morning routine they ought to do, then yes – it is not worth very much. On the other hand, a motivated person will use this practice to transform themselves, by creating a more grateful habit throughout the day, beyond just a few minutes in the morning, or evening, as a part of their routine. It can become a springboard to a more positive overall lifestyle.
- More importantly he leaves out one of the major points that the Psychologist, Researcher and Specialist in Happiness he cites (Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky) makes about the creation of happiness, at this moment: It is not only important to write a gratitude list, but include the why – the reason behind the gratitude – on the list as well, as this will deepen the emotional connection to the creation of the list, rather than just creating a list without any attachment or feelings. Strangely enough, he uses the questions of why throughout the book but should have given Dr. Lyobomirsky the credit here as well.
Enjoy this video by Dr. Lyobomirsky (the review continues below the video)
- His suggestion to not judge yourself for whatever you are putting in the journal is a very important one. I completely agree with this sentiment. This is your secret journal anyway (I would not share my gratitude journal openly, but I have a spiritual relationship with keeping silence, and I consider my gratitude journal a part of my spiritual practice), so there is no one there to judge you on how profound, or small each of your entries are. Your gratitude journal is a judgment-free, honest and open zone, just for you. And maybe for whatever deity you believe in. But that should be it.
I must confess, I ignored the happiness test – which is supposed to be measuring my current happiness level because I don’t see much merit in such a basic test of three questions, but it might bring some insight to you. I generally am not a fan of short psychological tests like that, so that I just my personal preference, not a judgment on the quality of the test.
The Question And Journal Section Of The 90 Day Happiness Journal
Before getting to the actual part, of the journal, the Author then chose to go through the questions in greater detail. As he explains, these questions will repeat themselves weekly (albeit a different day of the week) throughout this book, which I find a little disappointing. In a journal that features only 90 days of journaling, I expect 90 different journal prompts. Some books contain over 365 of them, or even more, but it was nice to have someone go through the intent of every question he wrote, which was an interesting little guide, that made a lot of sense and clarified some aspects a lot.
I liked that he mentions visualization – however, I don’t, and I don’t know many people who do, have the time to visualize for 20 minutes straight, as he at some point suggests. Even as a very creative person, I would have a very hard time, coming up with enough details to keep my visualization positive and focused. After a while, my attention would slip, and I might even dive into negative imagery, or not so positive aspects of an imaginary situation. That would be counterproductive. If you can stay focused on positive thoughts for that long- more power to you. I can’t. That is a little much to ask.
This length is only mentioned during the explanation section of this journal, while within the journal, there are no directions on how long someone is supposed to visualize. I would suggest, you do the length that makes you feel the most comfortable and works with your attention span.
He also added journal questions about laughter and recalling funny events, which I find very useful as well. Just reading the description of this specific happiness and gratitude technique made me smile.
After that, we arrive at the question that I found the most unique in this journal, and also probably the most powerful one.
“What didn’t go the way you intended last week? Find the positive. What could be the lesson and the blessing?
Finding the blessing and lessons in failures, and stumbling blocks are essential skills in cultivating a growth mindset and priming oneself for success. Negative situations most often hold a lot of information within them, and being able to look at them objectively is important. I have never seen this question in a journal of this type before, so that was awesome and profound.
How You Should Use This Journal
Because many of these journals prompt ask for a reflection back upon your day, this journal should be used in the evening to be the most useful, which I also find refreshing, as many Authors focus on the power of a great morning routine, rather than a well-thought-out evening routine.
While I disagree with some of the points made by the Author, it did not take away anything from the usefulness, and depth of the journal itself, and I had to say, that even though I was as mentioned above, taken back a little by the lack of new prompts, it did not bother me as much, in practice as I thought it would.
However, I do use The 90 Day Journal in conjunction with my morning journal, in which I follow the prompts laid out in The Year Of You, which might contribute to the lack of feeling monotone. It is interestingly to mention though, that he was set on avoiding a monotony, but repeated questions, anyway? I found this, a very interesting choice.
Overall, I consider this journal useful, and insightful, which is why I made it a part of my daily evening routine, at least for a few more weeks.
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Is the repeating of some of the journal prompts a deal breaker for you, when you pick up a guided journal? I would love to hear your opinion on that subject.
3.5 out of 5 Stars
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Title: Hiding In The Bathroom
Author: Morra Aarons-Mele
Publication Date: September 26th, 2017
Genre: Self-Help, Women & Business
I am an introvert – not one that is subjected to social phobias, but if you give me the choice between staying at home, and working on my dreams versus going out to hang out in large crowds, I would stay at home.
But as a business owner, it seems that being an extrovert is what is valued the most – at least that is what it looks like on the surface. Thankfully, Mora Aarons-Mele tackles this and many other misconceptions about being a business owner and successful in your career, are tackled and dissolved in an entertaining and thorough manner in Hiding In The Bathroom.
While I do not agree with everything in the book – I especially had a problem with how she tackled the subject of anxiety, and called to turn it into an asset (clinical anxiety, and anxiety that stems of PTSD and abuse, for example, are never an asset, no matter how you twist it or package it), but most of her points are solid and have a lot of merits.
I did, however, enjoy that the Author emphasizes on creating a work environment and style that fits the individual, rather than what we expect to behave like. Tailoring productivity in spurts, for example, works well for me personally, as I have fatigue and brain fog from my chronic illnesses, but if I move away from an 8-hour workday all in one chunk, and instead work in two-hour increments, I can actually focus better, therefore produce more. This flexibility is something we as business owners can embrace to it’s fullest, and this book showcases that technique.
Another strategy that I was able to resonate with talked about being empathetic. Introverts tend to have – according to the Author – more empathy for others and are more in touch with their emotional side, which in turn can be a true asset, and with that, I completely agree. As she points out – Empathy sells.
Overall, this book, written without much fluff – which I appreciated a lot – was an easy to read, a detailed non-fiction book about a subject that needs to be addressed more often. I don’t need to agree with the entire toolbox in order to find tricks and tips that are actually helpful and to find a book worth the read. Therefore, I can without a doubt recommend Hiding In The Bathroom to you, my dear readers.
You can learn and practice the skills you need to achieve a version of success, that is right for you.
3.5 out of 5 stars
From the marketing guru and host of the popular podcast Hiding in the Bathroom, a breakthrough introverts’ guide that broadens the conversation sparked by Quiet and moves away from the “Lean In” approach, offering wisdom and practical tips to help readers build strong relationships and achieve their own definition of professional success.
Most ambitious people believe that reaching the peaks of success means being on 24/7—tirelessly networking, deal-making, and keynoting conferences. This is nonsense, says Morra Aarons-Mele. As an eminent entrepreneur with a flourishing business and a self-proclaimed introvert with lots of anxieties, Morra disagrees with the notion that there’s only one successful “type”: the intense, super social, sleep-deprived mover and shaker, the person who musters endless amounts of “grit.” Hiding in the Bathroom is her antidote for everyone who is fed up with feeling like they must always “lean in”—who prefer those moments of hiding in the bathroom to constantly climbing the ladder or working the room.
Morra knows what it takes to make your mark, and now, this entrepreneur who has boosted the online strategy of clients such as the Malala Fund, President Obama, the UN Foundation, and the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation shares the insights, tricks, and knowledge she’s learned. Filled with advice, exercises to help readers evaluate their own work/life fit and manage anxiety, valuable tools, and stories of countless successful people—entrepreneurs, academics, and novices just beginning their careers—Hiding in the Bathroom empowers professionals of all ages and levels to take control and build their own versions of success. Thoughtful and practical, it is a must-have handbook for building a fantastic, prosperous career and a balanced, happy life—on your own terms.
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Motivation – something we can never have too much of, and sometimes seem to have a very hard time finding, especially during stressful and dramatic times (don’t ask about drama, I could write a book about that right now – actually maybe I should, lol)
But whether you and I need a kick in the behind or a gentle push in the right direction, books that motivate can provide exactly that. And I have read a lot of books on that subject – should I dare to say, semi-obsessively?
In any case, my lack of self-esteem and coffee-fueled reading binges will now benefit you, my dear readers, so at least it was worth it!
Here is a list of the some of the best books to read for motivation, that I have come across so far.
P.S. I will continue to update this book list as I am not planning on stopping anytime soon to delve into more motivational and other self-improvement books – well, cause you know, there is always something one can improve on oneself (or others).
Okay, I am currently slightly obsessed by this woman – not in a stalkerish, creepy kind of way – but in a “girl you are awesome, and now I need to start drawing too”, style – so when I saw that she had a book out, I did not even care that I was supposed to have been adulting for such a long time. This book might not be addressed to an “Older lady” like me (I am not that old), But I still got a ton of motivational stuff that is relevant to my life out of it – so it does not matter if you are a younger person (like my daughter), or an old _______ (enter your own insult), you can get something out of this book that will inspire you. Oh, and follow her on Instagram, right now – seriously, now – and come back to read the rest of the list.
Personal power, wow, how much I could carry on about how important it is for women to find their own powerful voice. Finding that grit that keeps you going can be hard though – especially in the midst of challenging times. This book, however, has some very good points on how to turn your life into a story of personal success and feel stronger, and happier with your choices. Empowering
And yes, there has to be one of the books on this list (at least – maybe more later) that has a cuss word as a part of the title, and that may offend you – but that does not take away from the raw truth that is presented in this book, that provides a kick where a kick is needed. Motivation is not always pretty, and sometimes we need to hear straight talk to get the message. There is a lot of straight talk in this book. Not for sensitive souls.
I have some bad habits that I am still working on – and I am sure that you do too – but these darn little sticky things that we do all of the time, keep us from reaching our goals and dreams – and that is where this book comes in – but in a more gentle way then the last book I presented on this list. If you learn by reading stories – little anecdotes on how others have overcome what you are seeking to overcome, then get this. If not, move on to another book on this list.
Oh, procrastination, how do I loathe thee – or at least I will later, for now, I rather read that newest Leslie North book that is waiting in my kindle downloads, hehe. Seriously, procrastination has an individual reason (or reasons), and discovering the reason, while working through it can turn you into a disciplined “Machine”, who can take action, instead of sitting there wishing for things. This book will help you on that journey, in actionable steps with real advice. Find out what you want, and take action. But first, read this book to find out how.
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