I am an introvert, I rather spent time alone, than navigating large crowds or gatherings. While they all have their purpose, I am not exactly the person who would think everyone would want to navigate around me as soon as I enter the room. And that is fine with me.
Yet, there are times when the skill of making someone like you immediately very useful, which is why I picked up the book. Now, I am not socially awkward, and I can handle myself in any situation – even if I prefer quiet times – but there is always a lot of room for improvement.
How To Make People Like You states that Attitude is Everything! I resonate very much with that sentiment, as this has been somewhat of a motto of mine. It only makes sense that this would also extend itself to communication.
The rest of his points, including the very detailed description on how to first meet someone is not only something that is worth reading but worth practicing.
Now, some people might consider learning these techniques a form of manipulation, but I see it differently.
When you have – truly and with sincerity – the other person’s best interest at heart, then employing techniques like those mentioned in How To Make People Like You, is just fine.
Now, these techniques will not work with and on everyone, but you are not on this planet to please and be friends with 7.5 Billion people – who has time for that – just those with whom a mutual relationship could foster some sense of a rewarding relationship.
5 out of 5 Stars
Author: Nicholas Boothman
Publisher: Workman Publishing Company
Genre: Self-Help, CommunicationBook Review: How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less Click To Tweet
Whether selling, managing, negotiating, planning, collaborating, pitching, instructing-or on your knees with a marriage proposal-the secret of success is based on connecting with other people. Now that connection is infinitely easier to make through Nicholas Boothman’s program of rapport by design.
How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less is the work of a master of Neuro-Linguistic Programming whose career is teaching corporations and groups the secrets of successful face-to-face communication. Aimed at establishing a rapport that stage between meeting and communicating-How to Make People Like You focuses on the concept of synchrony. It shows how to synchronize attitude, synchronizes body language, and synchronize voice tone so that you instantly and imperceptibly become someone the other person likes. Reinforcing these easy-to-learn skills is knowing how to read the other person’s sensory preferences-most of us are visual, some are kinesthetic, and a minority are auditory. So when you say “I see what you mean” to a visual person, you’re really speaking his language. Along the way the book covers attitude, nervousness, words that open a conversation and words that shut it down, compliments, eye cues, the magic of opposites attracting, and more. It’s how to make the best of the most important 90 seconds in any relationship, business or personal.
About The Author:
Nicholas Boothman, author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less, learned how to establish instant rapport with strangers while he was working as a fashion and advertising photographer. A licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, he is a consultant to individuals, groups, and corporations that want to learn the communication skills needed to connect with others. He lives in Toronto, Canada, with Wendy, his wife of 35 years.